Axver (axver) wrote,

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I ... I believe in love.

God Part II
Written and performed by U2

Don't believe the devil, I don't believe his book
But the truth is not the same without the lies he made up
Don't believe in excess; success is to give
Don't believe in riches but you should see where I live
I, I believe in love

Don't believe in forced entry, I don't believe in rape
But every time she passes by, wild thoughts escape
Don't believe in death row, skid row, or the gangs
Don't believe in the Uzi that just went off in my hand
I, I believe in love

Don't believe in cocaine; got a speed ball in my hand
I could cut and crack you open, did you hear what I said?
Don't believe it when they tell me there ain't no cure
The rich stay healthy; the sick stay poor
I, I believe in love

Love, love, love, love

Don't believe in Goldman; his type like a curse
Instant karma's gonna get him if I don't get him first
Don't believe that rock and roll could really change the world
As it spins in revolution, it spirals and turns
I, I believe in love

Don't believe in the sixties, in the golden age of pop
You glorify the past when the future dries up
Heard a singer on the radio late last night
Says he's gonna kick the darkness 'til it bleeds daylight
I, I believe in love

Love, love, love, love, love, love

I feel like I'm falling, like I'm spinning on a wheel
It always stops beside a name, a presence I can feel
I believe in love

Stop it!

This week in SOR, Johnno went on one very interesting rant, and it's got me thinking. Johnno isn't the most politically correct of men, and I admire how he'll speak his mind and say what he feels regardless of whether anyone agrees with him. Somehow, I don't remember exactly how, he got onto the topic of homosexuality and went on one of his now famous Johnno rants. What he said really did cause me to re-evaluate past patterns of thought.

The one thing that has particularly struck me is how society very much relates and connects love and sex. There is this attitude that if you love someone, you will have sex with them. I've heard that A LOT, and it's so far from the truth it's not funny. I don't think you can exactly choose who you love, I know for me it's just happened, and it's got entirely nothing to do with sex. Society tells people it does, though, and puts the two together as if they are one. It's totally illogical. You can love someone more than anyone else on earth, but that doesn't mean that you have even the faintest hint of sexual thoughts about them. It doesn't mean you have to marry the person, 'get physical' with them, or anything like that. I would argue that love is well beyond that.

Furthermore, society has set very specific gender stereotypes, and Johnno proposed an idea I hadn't heard before - that this may be the cause of many people being gay. Regardless of whether or not you agree with him, it's still some interesting food for thought. It is true that society has particular expectations for a man and expects him to act in a masculine manner, and has another set of expectations for a woman and expects her to act in a feminine manner. These ideas may have changed over time, but they are still quite fixed and definite behaviour patterns are still expected. What this means is that a lot of people do not fit into the stereotypes, because what is not acknowledged is that people are right across the spectrum - there is no room made for extremely masculine females or greatly feminine males. We all know how society treats people who don't exactly fit into the box, too.

In any case, to take an example, you can have a guy growing up who is simply feminine by nature. He hangs around with girls because he fits in with them, not with the Blokes Over There, and forms solid friendships with them. However, when it comes to finding a date, or when he wants a partner for the formal, the girls are interested in the Blokes Over There instead of him. So what do you think happens? The poor fellow seeks out kindred spirits - other feminine guys. As you may expect, they form a close bond, they come to love each other, and what does the society they live in tell them comes with love? There you go. Screwed over by society again.

It is definitely an interesting one to think about. When I say I oppose homosexuality, people often tell me that I can't oppose love. I don't oppose that! I can't tell you who does or doesn't love who, and I never would want to. But tell me, what in the world does loving someone have to do with sex? How does loving someone of the same gender make you homosexual?

What really irks me is how so many claiming religion and specifically Christianity, actually foster such attitudes. They harp on about love being only between a man and a woman. What rot. Love is something between two people, regardless of gender. Sex is something between a man and a woman, and I offer a basic study of anatomy as evidence in my favour. My religious beliefs, which I came to accept through my own free will (for those who don't know, I was once an atheist), state that it only belongs in marriage, and that marriage is a heterosexual union. I'm not going to force that on anyone, and what people do in the bedroom is up to them. I can say what I think on here, but I'm not going to bash anyone with a steel rod if they choose to disagree and do otherwise. It really bugs me when people harp on about how homosexuality is so evil and will cause so many ills to religion, marriage, and society. I really don't think someone's sexual preference is going to matter much. But if you're going to relate sex to love and say a man can't love another man deeply, then you are the one who is causing ills to religion, marriage, and society.

Anyway. I'm more thinking aloud here, and re-evaluating my position. I don't want to take any sides as it is. It's just that I had never thought of homosexuality in relation to society before, I simply saw it as something rather icky that I wanted no part of. And really, this continual relating love to sex does irk me something fierce. I love my closest friends dearly, they mean so much to me, and yet I would never think of them in a sexual manner. Society seems to think that if you say you love someone of the same gender, you are gay, and if you love someone of the other gender, you're going to have sex with them. It's such rot, it truly is. In any case, I'm totally disinterested in that sort of sexual stuff. A romantic relationship with me would be the most boring and dissatisfying relationship ever if you were looking for something physical and sexual. Personally, I actually want to talk to someone, have intellectual discussions and connect on the deepest of levels. A relationship with me would most likely involve a lot of time in the library. Ahh, libraries ... such wonderful places of enormous knowledge ... I would be so lost without libraries. And books. There's no point to living without literature and the written word. When people suggest the Internet will replace books, I want to throw up. That's how much of a horrible idea it is.

Anyway, that's all for now.
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